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Black Breastfeeding Week 2014! 

8/27/2014

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Raising Awareness with Black Breastfeeding Week! Yes, they deserve a special week in world breastfeeding month! :) Please read on if you have a different opinion or don't understand why. Black breastfeeding moms absolutely face more challenges than other mothers in the US AND they need the benefits of breastfeeding even more because they and their babies are even more at risk. If you don't know, read on. Studies, surveys, CDC reports and more support this. "The barriers are financial, cultural, systemic and logistical. When dominant culture women aren’t aware of the challenges that women of color face, that lack of awareness becomes a barrier of its own." And please remember that race matters not just in breastfeeding, but in life... everyday. Whether you think it does or doesn't or should or shouldn't - race impacts everything.

http://blackbreastfeedingweek.org/why-we-need-black-breastfeeding-week/

http://lactationmatters.org/2014/08/25/seven-ways-to-support-black-breastfeeding-week/

And...Why Ferguson has everything to do with Black Breastfeeding Week

SO CATCHY! "All the...all the babies love it!" :)

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...And just because it's relevant to race and the times (not breastfeeding fyi), I have to include this as well as another example of all that is holding us back from moving more towards equality... If you're interested, go for the link below...

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/27/jon-stewart-ferguson_n_5720622.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063
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Info and Support for Preventing Primary Cesareans

7/21/2014

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Today I want to say that ICAN is about supporting the first time mom, too, not just those hoping for a VBAC. It is a great resource for preventing that primary cesarean birth. As is the VBAC facts site and Jen Kamels who runs it and teaches a workshop around the country and online.

http://www.ican-online.org
www.vbacfacts.com

Our local ICAN of SEPA:
http://icanofsepa.wordpress.com
https://www.facebook.com/groups/411506922273373/

I'm also linking a story here that offers a great explanation as to why we fight so hard to help mothers avoid their primary (and too often unnecessary) cesareans and to birth vaginally. It details the risks and dangers to mothers of multiple cesareans. This mother is not alone, more and more of these examples are making news because they are becoming more prevalent problems in pregnancies and in the OR. Just to be aware, though, I had tears in my eyes the whole time while reading. She does a great job writing so that the reader can almost feel her fears through what was a very scary experience. To clarify, MOST 1st and even 2nd repeat cesareans will be manageable by most hospitals and with what blood they have on hand for possibility of transfusing...I do not want to scare moms facing a repeat cesarean where they NEED to trust and depend on a doctor to keep them safe, but this story also shows how a mother did her homework to do just that - be in the best place with the best team to make sure she'd be going back home to her kiddos. This was simply the situation she ended up in during her 7th pregnancy. Her placenta became deeply implanted into her uterus and cervix after multiple previous surgeries to her uterus. 

As a doula, I never want my clients to have any good answer to the question, 'what else could I have done to prevent my first cesarean?' This is especially important when moms desire a larger family. I have had friends and family members tell me that their doctors never once mentioned to them before, during, or after their first cesarean that they'd need to consider limiting family size due to having that surgical birth and the increased dangers of multiple pregnancies and cesarean births following. And not just that, but that they'd not been offered a chance to VBAC and instead told that it is dangerous to try, safer to schedule ANOTHER cesarean, and just accept having 2 children or at most 3 if she really really wants to risk it, but no more! Women are being told this AFTER their second cesareans when their options are nearly nil at that point! It's infuriating. And sad. More women need doula support through their first pregnancies and births, good information, supportive care providers, and to visit their local ICAN group before having their first babies if we want to stop this trend from continuing. Women need the truth! They need their options! They want to make informed choices! 

I recently met a nurse who told me there is a doctor on her floor who frequently says all babies should be born by cesarean and has no problem recommending tube tying after the second to all mothers. I seriously hope he is in the extreme minority. But I have a feeling that while we do have docs who truly believe in the safety of and support less medicalized vaginal birth, the number of docs seeing their norm everyday be cesarean deliveries is increasing by the day. This will just continue to have an effect on moms and babies (physically, mentally, emotionally!!!) if we don't advocate for ourselves and surround ourselves with professional support and evidence based information. 

And while I'm thinking of it. Hug another woman today. Love her with that hug, if even for just a few seconds. We don't always know each other's journey. 


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CDC Breastfeeding Report Card, 2013

8/1/2013

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http://www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding/pdf/2013BreastfeedingReportCard.pdf

"The percent of US infants who begin breastfeeding is high at 77%. While there is concern that infants are not breastfed for as long as recommended, the National Immunization Survey data show continued progress has been made over the last ten years. Of infants born in 2010, 49% were breastfeeding at 6 months, up from 35% in 2000. The breastfeeding rate at 12 months increased from 16% to 27% during that same time period."

Why, you wonder? Well, it is attributed to an increase of Skin-to-Skin contact between mother and baby immediately following birth AND the practice of Rooming- In (23 of 24 hrs spent with mom instead of baby away from her in nursery). These practices are being implemented more and more at area hospitals here in and around Philadelphia, PA and we are seeing great results for moms and babies success with breastfeeding. While we hope to lower the rate of cesarean sections happening, we can also hope to increase these numbers even more. The report demonstrates that as the percentages of hospitals and birthing centers where >90% mothers and babies get skin to skin and rooming in INCREASES, so does the immediate and long term success of breastfeeding. This supports the Healthy People objectives for 2020  while making mothers and babies happier! Let's keep it up, America! Let's keep it up PA! Let's keep it up Philly! Support support support! Hospital procedures effect breastfeeding success so greatly, more than mothers realize, so we need procedures to support moms and babies getting the best start to breastfeeding. Come on nurses, docs, midwives, doulas, lactation consultants, and let's not forget our peer counselors - This week is also World Breastfeeding Week and the theme is focusing on the importance of support from moms in the community, ie peer counselors! ;)  And last but definitely not least, let's keep it up, mommies! You can do it!


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Danny's birth

5/21/2013

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Our son joyously arrived at 10:08pm on Monday, April 29th.  He came on his due date, which happily is the first of my expectations he decided not to fulfill.  I had told people for months that we would have a May baby, but he had other ideas.  My husband and I were lounging on the couch in the afternoon of the 28th when I felt a sudden desire to rush to the bathroom.  I knew immediately that my water had broken and remembered to note the color, smell, etc. like Lori had told us.  Water continued to seep from me for the next eight hours or so, in varying amounts.  The amount of water surprised me!  Good thing I had a bag of sanitary napkins on hand.  

Dan (the husband, not the baby!) and I frantically packed our bags and called The Birth Center in Wilmington, which is where we were planning on giving birth.  Because I am Group B Strep positive, the midwife (Durenda) requested we come in and start an antibiotic.  I felt high and expectant on the ride to Delaware.  I had not had any contractions yet.   When we arrived  Durenda confirmed that I had experienced premature rupture of membranes (PROM).  I was about 2cm dilated and 60% or so effaced. She suggested that we take a walk and get something to eat at a local restaurant, which we did feeling anxious and gleeful.  After dinner, we considered getting a hotel, which would have meant that we would have to come back to TBC every four hours during the night so the antibiotic could be readministered.  Durenda suggested we sleep there, saving us the hassle.  Very nice!  

During dinner and the walk, I had several slight contractions that felt more like the Braxton-Hicks  variety with little pain.  Things were going slowly so we were reminded that if active labor had not begun within 24 hours of PROM we would be transferred to Christiana Hospital. After we returned to TBC, Durenda suggested taking some homeopathic tablets to help speed the process of labor.  She also presented castor oil as an alternative.  After consulting with Lori, I decided to try to castor oil immediately and try the homeopathy in the morning if it was needed. In hindsight, I should have done everything suggested immediately, but at the time I wanted to sleep a little and thought contractions would begin very soon.  I slept on my left side that night with my belly hanging over the edge of the bed to try to help Baby Danny position himself in the ideal position, with the knowledge that he had been on my right side for the majority of my pregnancy.  The castor oil did not kick in until early the next morning, and I had mild contractions through the night and was able to sleep pretty well.  

The next morning, midwife Sarah gave me the homeopathic herbs and Lori arrived with breakfast foods from Wawa. I was still only about 3 cm dilated and a little more effaced, but satisfactory progress wasn't being made.  I started to feel slightly desperate with the thought that we would be transferred, so after some more castor oil I tried nipple stimulation in the shower, which brought some better contractions.  After about thirty minutes in the shower, we tried taking a walk and doing some pelvis-opening stretches, but another exam revealed that I still wasn't 4cm dilated, which had been our indication that active labor had begun.  Sarah told me that we would need to be transferred, which was heartbreaking to me because I saw a C-section at the end of the ordeal.  I had a good cry, then we packed up and went to the hospital.   

As soon as we arrived, my contractions became more painful.  I was incredibly frustrated with the paperwork in triage, including seemingly irrelevant questions like the name of the county in which I was born.  Apparently, my husband, who took over after I showed clear frustration with the questioning, was also asked three times, "Are you sure she has no Spanish heritage?"  Not sure why this was of interest to them.  Finally, Sarah spoke up and asked if I could go to our room and we were told we could. We arrived in the room about 2:00pm.  As soon as we arrived an IV was started and I was given Pitocin to induce more contractions. The nurses were kind to all of us; I didn't feel any animosity about our wanting to do things as naturally as possible.  The nurses even seemed to respect Sarah and Lori's perspective and knowledge. I think they would agree.   

I found not being able to walk, squat, or move in general very difficult.  I turned to my left and waited between contractions. I experienced very little sensation in the front of my body, but the pain in my back was sharp.  Luckily, Dan never left my side and massaged both sides of my spine during each contraction.  Lori or Sarah stayed in front of my face, while the other stroked my leg or applied pressure on pressure points to help the contractions speed along.  

A habit I developed that Lori later said was unique: during contractions I sang or repeated phrases.  In the beginning, I said things like: "OPEN" in a firm, calm voice; "somos juntos" ("we are together"), a phrase that resonates with me after a trip to Mexico a couple of years ago; "ganbare!" ("go for it!" in Japanese); "there is no bliss like this" (a favorite affirmation from yoga practice); and simply "YES!"  I also told myself to be calm and that what I was feeling was a pain that creates, not that destroys.  As the contractions increased in duration and frequency, I sang long high notes or scales and didn't repeat phrases.   Lori told me I also sang "Somewhere Over the Rainbow." I could not have made it through without this comfort measure, which made me feel powerful and as though I was still in control of something.  At one point, the nurses explained that they were concerned about the baby's heart beat, so they wanted to use an internal monitor.  This device sticks into the baby's head using a piece of wire that looks like a screw.  Lori and Sarah said it was a good idea, and with the idea that a healthy baby was the goal I agreed.  

Around 9:00pm someone asked if I was feeling pressure in my bowel, which I said was true. The pressure increased with each contraction, and Lori was coaching me not to push but to use puff breaths during each contraction to avoid the urge.  During the puff breaths, I began to push uncontrollably.  The pushing felt like a sort of muscle reaction that I could not control, similar to what I imagine a seizure might feel like.  Someone (a doctor?  I never saw her again) said that I was fully effaced and dilated, so everyone agreed with smiles that I could start pushing.  A bar was used across the bed for me to put my feet on and the OBGYN on call arrived.  He said the pushing was going very quickly.  I commented to Lori and Sarah that this part was very satisfying and almost pleasurable because it was empowering to feel I was getting things accomplished.  Several other nurses joined us and everyone was shouting "Go, Sara! Push!" which really helped me stay motivated.  The hospital nurses commented that it was unusual for me to be smiling and seemingly enjoying myself. I think around this time I said to Lori, "I am a warrior" and she heartily agreed with an encouraging smile.  

I expected to be shocked by my baby, so had done a lot of visualizing during pregnancy of the moment when he emerged.  There was no shock involved, he felt like mine and someone I already knew. I don't think the visualizations had anything to do with this feeling; I just think it was the first hormonal reaction of motherhood to know that this creature is mine and no one else's, not even my husband's in the same way as he is mine.  

The placenta came away quickly, though I think the doctor had something to do with that as his arm was somewhere inside me just before it emerged.  The stitching process was not pleasant; I had a third degree tear because our baby was on the larger side (9lbs, 14 ounces) and came out with his arm wrapped around his head. I am disappointed with doctor's performance; he was by far the least caring member of the team and did nothing to keep me informed of what he was doing.  He almost seemed annoyed by my questions.  Our baby spent the next 3 and a half days in the NICU, which is another long story!  If anyone is interested I'd be happy to share.  The end result of all of this is currently asleep on my lap.    :)

Last thing for all you first timers who might come across this: a short list of recommendations.
1.  Hire a doula.  I VERY HIGHLY recommend Lori.  If possible, also have another support person plus your partner for a total of three.  I know that these people's presence there meant that the interventions were kept to an absolute minimum.
2.  Pack a bag in advance and pack as though you'll be gone for several days.  Better to have to much than too little.
3.  Get in shape NOW.  Even if you're already pregnant, find something to do that will keep you fit.
4. I hate to say this, but expect to be disappointed in the doctors you meet.  Find others to trust.   

THE END! Ah, but also a huge beginning for our family!  
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Informed Consent?

2/8/2013

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How's this for informed consent? First time mom says to her favorite doctor at 38 wk check up,
"I'm getting pretty uncomfortable but I really don't want to be induced because I heard it makes things harder" OB response, "1)The nice thing about inductions is you can not only plan your baby's birth into your schedule without the risk of surprise or something going wrong before you make it to the hospital in labor but you also get to assure I'll be the doctor delivering you. (He also reminds her that she won't have to push out as big of a baby either) and 2) We are only giving you the hormone your body makes itself, so it's not going to be any 'harder'. Labor is hard. We have epidurals for that." Mom is surprised how much the answer eases her mind despite everything she's been reading - and feeling much more in control now, says, "As long as it doesn't increase my risk for having a csection, because I definitely don't want that... when is the soonest we can do it?" Doc responds, "The ones coming in with Birth Plans increase their chance of cesarean. (chuckles) You'll be fine. Let's do next Wednesday, you'll be 39 wks and a few days - policy changes - I have to wait until at least 38 wks now no matter how uncomfortable you are."
SO. MANY. PROBLEMS. WITH. THIS. Where to even begin? Now, I feel pretty comfortable in my knowledge base of the evidence as well as ACOG guidelines, etc., so there are a few things glaring at me that I want to JUMP on... big time. But I fear if I start to address each untruth and danger within this OB's responses, I will write a book tonight, not a blog post! And frankly, I don't have the time! Ok, Breathe. In....all things good and right in the world, Out....all things &U#&$$*ed up....ok, again....nice and deep and slow. Repeat.

Ok. If this was your sister, friend, or anyone you cared about - what would you say to keep it short and simple!?!? For you doulas and childbirth educator's out there - what information would you be sure to relay to this client/student?

I tend to think that if I was involved with this woman either professionally or personally I might start with this:


The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) Practice Bulletin No. 107 addresses counseling for induction of labor and specifically addresses elective induction in nulliparous women with unfavorable cervices as to the 2-fold increase in risk of cesarean delivery, length of labor, and the need for a readily available physician capable of performing a cesarean delivery. ACOG also offers a Patient Safety Checklist for induction of labor that includes documentation that risks and benefits were discussed with the patient.

I realize we can't save every woman and baby from similar doctors who are, believe me, absolutely still out there practicing in a hospital near you - but, if you heard a similar conversation being relayed to you, WHAT DO YOU SAY? And why do you speak up or not? I'm curious of the different perspectives on this topic.
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Lamaze's TOP 5 Barriers to Breastfeeding

8/25/2012

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Lamaze International lists the TOP 5 Barriers to Breastfeeding. And while everyone who experiences these things when having a baby assumes they must be necessary, they are SO OFTEN NOT. Get the word out - moms have to know that they can ask for alternatives and while the practices may be 'normal' for that hospital, they are NOT normal for babies or getting breastfeeding off to a good start. Remember, the staff only sees moms through day 2 or 3 usually! What they don't see is the struggle afterwards that moms often encounter because of these barriers, and all too much without support. This is why our initial rate of 77% breastfeeding when discharged drops so drastically each week following.

Below is copied from their website: http://www.lamazeinternational.org/p/cm/ld/fid=324

In honor of breastfeeding awareness, Lamaze calls out the following top five breastfeeding barriers within the first 24 hours of birth to help expecting moms prepare for the best breastfeeding experience:

  1. Unnecessary birth interventions:  While there are many unknowns during the birthing process, women can seek maternity care practices backed by science that can make birth safer and healthier. Fetal monitors, confinement to bed, artificially starting or speeding up labor and cesarean surgery can make birth more difficult and lead to a harder start for breastfeeding. For example, women whose babies are delivered by cesarean surgery can face a delay before the mature milk comes in. Pregnant women can find more information about reducing these and other challenges in childbirth by visiting Lamaze’s Push for Your Baby resources at: www.lamaze.org/ChildbirthChallenges. 
  2. Separating mom and baby: Abundant evidence shows that mother-baby, skin-to-skin care beginning right after birth and continuing uninterrupted, for at least one hour, or until after the first feeding for breastfeeding women, helps mothers, babies and breastfeeding. Skin-to-skin care helps a mom feel more confident, respond more quickly to her baby’s needs, reduces stress and makes breastfeeding easier. There are also clear benefits for babies: they breastfeed sooner, longer and more easily, they cry less, have more stable temperatures and blood sugar levels, have lower levels of stress hormones, and adjust more easily to life outside of the womb.[i]
  3. Use of pacifiers or other artificial nipples before breastfeeding is well established: Does the hospital nursery use pacifiers or bottle-feed babies without need? It’s an important question for expecting parents to ask. Studies show that early pacifier use may interfere with breastfeeding, and could decrease mom’s ability to exclusively breastfeed and reduce the duration of breastfeeding. Artificial nipples should be avoided until breastfeeding is well established (after about four weeks).
  4. Supplementing breastmilk with formula: Breastmilk is best for babies. Formula simply does not provide the added nutritional and health benefits of breastmilk that’s naturally packed with antibodies, and should not replace formula unless there is a compelling medical reason to do so. Even the few days following birth are vitally important. The breasts produce a vital substance called colostrum, which protects the baby from illnesses and provides important nutrients
  5. Lack of postpartum breastfeeding support: Many new moms need breastfeeding support after hospital or birth center discharge. Support may include: a home visit or hospital postpartum visit, referral to local community resources, follow-up telephone contact, a breastfeeding support group, or an outpatient clinic. This is a good time for a mom to talk about any challenges she may be having, and get the help she needs to give her baby the healthiest start.
"While breastfeeding decision-making can spark controversy among moms, improving breastfeeding awareness is not about passing judgment,” said Deck. “It’s about considering the scientific evidence and giving women the support they need to achieve their breastfeeding goals."

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